Category Archives: Step 3: Allow

The Path of Least Resistance

For the last several years,  I have been living on the “Path of Least Resistance.” This meant that anytime I experienced or felt any sort of resistance, I went the other direction.  For me, it became a sign post to let me know that was not where I was supposed to be. Without realizing it, I let my life be guided by a path that was bordered by resistance.

This worked really well for me for a very long time and I would have even suggested living from this place. (For some of you, this may have been a message we even explored together in our sessions and workshops together. If that’s true, what I am about to share may surprise you. Keep reading.)

Due to my most recent experience with resistance to the nth degree, I now realize this path was keeping me small and “safe.”   And it kept me living in a world where I was resisting resistance

And what we resist persists!

This has taken on a new meaning for me as I experience a 6 month transformation program.  At first I was resisting the entire organization with such fierceness that you wouldn’t have recognized me.  I was so angry, judgmental, and closed the ENTIRE 3 days. I hated being there and I was just “getting through it.” Once I took time and space to explore the resistance, I realized I was really resisting my own transformation. That in itself was a big eye opener to me because I feel like I have always been open to self-growth and expansion. To see that I was only willing to do that in small ways was fascinating to me and how I kept myself “small.”

Being aware of this, I signed up for the next part of the training.  Resistance still showed up, but not as much, so I signed up for the third and final part of the program, which I am currently in.  Holy moly, this is where the resistance is showing its self even more because instead of a weekend experience it is a 3 month process!  I could list all the reasons I am resisting it (it would be a very long list, which just shows you the level of resistance I have had to it) but I would rather share what I am learning about resistance and my new relationship to it.

I don’t have this figured out yet.

Please know that it is still new and raw and I am sharing this as it’s happening and not from a place where I have it all figured out. Thank goodness for two books that have really shed light on this for me.  “The Surrender Experiment,” and “The Untethered Soul,” by Michael Singer. If you haven’t read them yet, I highly recommend you do.  And if you have read them, I would suggest reading them again!

In “The Untethered Soul,” he says “It’s not life’s events that are causing problems or stress. It is your resistance to life’s events that is causing this experience.”

It’s MY resistance to life’s events
that are creating MY struggle and stress.

Even with all the work I have done on my spiritual journey, I had to let that sink in more deeply. Now that I take full responsibility for my experience, I can focus on releasing the resistance I’ve created.

This is my practice to release resistance:

When I feel resistance, I notice it and then I breathe to relax so it will pass through me. 

It’s not coming from a place of needing to change my direct or staying, but to simply release the resistance. That’s it.

This is different than avoiding it like I had done before or sticking it out and pushing past the resistance.

When I practice this newer approach, all that is left is peace and my path widens.

Because of this experience I feel like my spiritual path is being upgraded to one of acceptance and surrender in a way I haven’t been able to tap into before or new was possible.

Instead of the Path of Least Resistance, I am now on the Path of Nonresistance.  I hear the views are great and the gifts are amazing!  And I am open to having you travel along with me.

  • Do you sense you are resisting something right now?
  • What do you do to release resistance?
  • Have you read Michael Singer’s books? If so, what gems stand out to you?

I really want to hear from you. :-) Please share!

You can retire, too!

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Are You a Rockin’ Receiver?

Our recent move has helped me deepen my practice of being a rockin’ receiver which is such a crucial ingredient to the manifesting process. Thank goodness I had already been practicing this with accepting and absorbing compliments, or else I would have not been able to fully soak up all the love from my friends beforeContinue Reading

The Weigh To Say Good-Bye

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Opening Your Manifesting Eyes

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The Gift of Not Knowing

I have a smile on my face as I realize we have lived in Hawaii for a year. While living here has been amazing, my smile is really coming from the journey that got us here. What I am about to share with you is an article I had written over a year ago.  AtContinue Reading